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You can't be that naive!

 Yesterday I spent  some time on the phone with a friend..  The only friend who knows of my up bringing! she knows who I was then, and who I am now.  And truthfully, she would most likely say, I am that same person today.  Moving forward -  I was loathing in self pity;  And she said to me..  "Brenda, you can't be that naive to think you're  the only one  who had a tough childhood!?"  Well, she pulled me right out of it! and quick!..  right out of my own self pity.  I've been hearing those 5 words over and over since our chat.  

*It inspired this blog post*

You can't be that naive.  From that point of view how could I possibly go on loathing?! I couldn't.  She shaped me right up. Yes, things were tough..  But that's the past, why do I keep reliving it as if it is somehow affecting my life today.  NEWS FLASH! it's what many of us do. 

It's as if we want a reason to be sad.  A reason to not succeed.  I can only speak for myself, but I do believe this has been my battle.  I know I'm not good enough.  But yet I know I am!  But not really.. ok, maybe.  Well, sometimes!  Like with support I can be good enough.  But not all on my own.  I could never be the center of attention, It's been tried, I bomb!  My life is too weird..  I'm too weird!  I can't get out there in front of people, this is the best I can do.  

How are others doing it?  Why can't I be like them?  but I don't want to be like them.  I want to be like me..  But "me" is flawed.  Yet...   

I can't be that naive to think I'm the only one who has ever had a tough childhood,  the only one who has ever been divorced,  the only one who has ever had cancer, the only one who has ever had their life altered unfairly, the only one who cries, the only one who is and feels so alone is this world.  No..  I'm not that naive.  But perhaps I'm that selfish!  and so self centered that I can only think of myself.  And that's exactly what it is!  It's selfishness! it's me ism.

I never thought of myself as selfish, but..  perhaps we all are.  Those that are always complaining about their trails & tribulations. They probably don't see it either.. but it is a form of me ism.  I've no suggestions on how to fix this.  But for me..  I honestly want to stop it! I want to stop all the negative thoughts, living in the past..  Thinking/feeling/behaving/believing I'm not good enough; Because..   I  know deep down inside I am.   I don't wish to be naive!💕  

We live in a time where everyone compares everything from job status to who's sicker than who..  everyone want's to share their pity.  The pity stage just isn't big enough for the entire world.  Many others have gone before me.. Having to overcome challenges  AND they have prevailed.  So.. why can't I? and why can't you?  what makes us so special that the world must feel sorry for us. 

We!...  can't be that naive!  to think that we are the only one's who have ever fallen on tough times.   I encourage you to be strong💪this day!  I will as well. (((hugs))) 💞

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Don't let anyone tell you who you should be.

I have done a lot of self help over the years.  I've known since I was a teenager, that I was not like most.   I knew before I was married,  that my then husband was quite different me.  

After many years have passed, and me seeing therapist..(s)  trying to fix myself so others would like me better;  including my husband.   I've realized that I am indeed operating on a higher emotional level than most.  No therapist would give me any pills, nor did they deem me crazy.  Honestly, I had to beg for help with my anxiety.  I look well put together and carry myself in a graceful manner.  AND I've been told I look strong and confident.  

I've ran into a few people in my life that totally get me..  And I get them.  

We all have our own personalities, code of behavior, and sometimes we say or do things others wouldn't do, therefore others feel we shouldn't do it as well!  it's not something "They're" comfortable with.  (We like to impose our ethics on one another)    How we speak, how we live,  who we date/ marry,  who we vote fore...  even how we work.  We all have a different work ethic!  This is were good workers, bad or lazy workers come in.. *as far as we're concerned*  But often these workers just aren't willing to go the extra mile as you or myself.  So we label them as bad and OR LAZY.  I have personally worked with SO many LAZY workers..  in my opinion.  But.. that's the problem!  it is only my opinion.  Just because they didn't work to the tune of my ethics, didn't and doesn't  mean they're  bad or lazy.   It does however mean we're operating on a different level of work ethic.  All this isn't  a bad thing.. it's just a you are YOU 🍎and I am ME thing!🍅

When we meet people that  insist on mocking us for being different from them

We must understand they truly know no better.  Their level of intelligence doesn't compare to yours.   None of this is bad!  We just need to be aware of it.

If you're operating on a higher emotional level..  You have to surround yourselves around like minded minds..  Those that are most like you. It matters!  emotional intelligence is very real.   That's what it's called!

Some of us are unable to reach into that deep place of sincerity.  But like me! you can learn.. and change!  You can actually be who you truthfully want to be.   And it doesn't have to be related to this blog post..  I simply want you to just BE YOU!  and do not let someone else decide that for you🤔

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13 Signs of High Emotional Intelligence | Inc.com

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Protect your castle

 I've had many guest over the years, all of which I invite in and sincerely encourage them to feel comfortable.   I do believe our home speaks to our guest when they enter.. and then again when they leave.  Think about that for a second.

I was/am so pleased to hear my guests  say things like  " Your place feels so cozy"  "I feel such a good spirit in here"    "I like it here"...   AND so many other things I've heard from my guest over the years.  Even maintenance staff come in and I can just see the look on their faces..👷  It's a surprised one👲.      I had to call 911 once for a neighbor that needed my support... (she came to my door and I let her in, I'd never seen nor met her up til that point.   She came to the right place👼)   AND 4 fire fighters came.. 🚒🚑 all in my small place, It was a calm and pleasant rescue.  I've since seen this girl.. and she is doing great! praise God! 

How many of you pray over your homes🏠/apartments🏙?  How about your cars🚗 That's a real thing you know?  I'm always praying over my shelter;  praying that all who enter will be blessed.  I use to pray over my car as well, not to keep it scratch free... but to keep it maintained so that I can travel back and fourth to work.. so I can make money from the job🏥 that the Lord blessed me with.  You see, it's ALL connected.  Think about it🙏🤔😊

When you keep your shelter prayed over...   And do it often.  The devil cannot come through your doors.. nor windows.  Now, This post may be too deep for some.  But profound for others.   Praying is MY way of life..  No worries if it is not YOURS.

I would only encourage you to just keep negative energy out of your space.  Just make sure you're surrounding yourselves, family and friends with good clean energy.  Unfortunately  bad energy DOES exist 📖   And our homes are our castles.

Protect your castles🚷

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Looking through a clear lens

To be able to see life through a clear lens, we must be willing to clear the fog and film that often covers our eyes,  And affects the way we view others!  What you SEE is not always what you GET.  Be mindful of sincerity, it's not for everyone.. so, stay close to those that offer it!🙏🚰

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Learning a new way to generate income

I've been thinking for a long time, what kind of work could I do? How will I survive? now that I no longer work outside the home, due to disabilities I now have.  Life is so different for me now, strangely it is for the better.. in many ways;  Yet, I am so limited in others.  I am extremely blessed to have some people in my life that have said:  "Brenda we're going to help you"  Help me learn how to be an independent business person.  I'm so helpless right now.  I'm learning how to have a business from friends. Though I watched my ex husband run his business for over 20yrs! it's still hard for me. You have to be firm with people, You have to be smart!  You have to know about your product, and speak confidently about it.  So, I'm hoping this raw/sincere blog will help you! in all area's of your lives.  Please remember/ understand, I am no body special.   I am someone who is just like YOU!.  Rebuilding my life at age 52 is no joke. I'm afraid, and doubtful.  But I cannot allow those words into my heart and head.  I'm entering a place I wouldn't have dared to enter about 3yrs ago.  It's amazing how life changes can force us out of that comfort zone that many of us live in.  

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The last super

Yesterday I cooked, and when I cook I normally have pieces of leftover vegetables.  Depending on the vegetables I'll either blend and drink them, salad them or soup them.  Well  I made soup, and decided I needed some beef to add.  So my son took me to the store.. He waits in the car.  I was smart!  I knew I didn't feel right.. so I decided to ride the cart (You know those carts most stores have) Just to be safe.  Long story short..  I had a horrible anxiety attack.  Perhaps it was even panic!  I rode my cart up to the checker, got off the cart and told the lady I was sick.  She thought maybe I needed to split.. Leave.  I laid my head down on the counter and told her I was sorry.  Then thought to myself, I NEED this beef!  and of course I had more than beef..  Some other things I'd been needing.. not much  But not just the beef!

As I held my head down, she rang up my things.  Once I saw the price I handed her some money and begin to walk away;  As I was walking away,  I told the lady my son was in the car and I'd send him in for my bag.  She insisted on walking me to the car and she carried my bag.  I felt faint and nauseous,  I got home and had dry heaves.  I was moaning then started to cry..  I thought to myself, IS THIS IT?  am I going to join Elizabeth!? - Sanford & Son 

My son knew better than to stay, He dropped me off and left, he didn't want to witness what was surely to be a night of crying and uncertainty.  I knew I was alone, just me and the lord.  I begged the lord to hold me, as my heart felt like it would beat right out of my chest.  At that point I started calling anyone that would pick up.  I reached a friend.. and that was all the medication I needed.  She talked me down from that cliff I was almost to fall off.   

Sometimes there is no rhyme nor reason for anxiety.  It just shows up! out of nowhere.  I suppose I've invited it, a time or 6.  Doing too much, not getting my sleep.. Just not focusing on my inner self.   I've been lead to believe I can control it..  I do try.  But so far all I seem to be able to control is how I handle it when it comes. I've yet to master the skill that keeps it at bay.  

If you're like me.. I feel your pain! strength💪 is all we have🙏🙌 💃 Always reach out.  It truly is the best medication, and it's instant. 😀

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Happy Sunday evening!

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Living with alkaline

Living with alkaline!  I thought that'd be a fun title.  I am not about to act like an expert on any of the products I use in my life.  But I will be sharing 2 of them frequently as I journey through this blog also giving you the opportunity to learn more about them. (and maybe trying them)  I do drink alkaline water and I drink it all day long.  I strongly believe it helped save my life and keeps me cancer free.  [That of course is only my opinion]  You cannot buy from the stores what I drink.  I chose to do more than JUST write on this blog; I thought I could also start a business in conjunction, because let's be honest, if there is money to be made I could definitely use it.  I don't work outside the home and this is something I can do naturally.

Sharing my heart and my life comes to me very naturally, I think the reason is spiritual.   I want to share my journey with you..  I'll be sharing many cooking recipes as well..  SO why not share my recipe back to good health🤔😀..   And speaking of cooking!  I plan to do some of it today.   My plan is to keep this blog exciting!  with videos and pictures.  (But don't forget )  It's new and I'm learning 😊

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Growing up all over again

I actually have a pretty good life.  It's what I know and I have also been told.  Sometimes I forget to tap into the greatness and the gratefulness that I know dwells within my heart and mind. I do believe I am someone who is afraid of success. I've thought this over many times over the years.  I never saw myself learning more to do in life.  I'm not someone who has had many jobs in my life. I worked as a nursing assistant since I was 18yrs.  Before that, I worked in a kitchen as a dietary aid. AND before that I worked at 2 different restaurants.  So truthfully, my whole life has been about helping others, putting others first.  And of course when I started my family.. No one could argue about who came first in my house.. Yes, it was the children. I can no longer do the work I use to.. Taking care of people is no longer an option.  I have a huge job just caring for myself.  However It does seem strange to not have anyone to care for or about.  Don't get me wrong, I care about people! especially my family, but they don't need me making decisions for them anymore. I once made decisions for people, on a small scale.. but nonetheless I was helpful to them. Helping them decide what was going to be done to facilitate the night/evening/day.  When my life did a 180.. I feel as if yes, it went backwards.  I was now in the role of having decisions being made for me.   I felt so powerless.  My self esteem was never that great, and my decline in life did not help.  But here I am 3 yrs in, cancer free! ready to rock my life again.  It's as if God gave me a do over.  And he has placed tools and people in my life to help me grow up.. all over again. 

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My First Post of Many

I'm super excited about finally being able to do what I love..  Sharing my heart.  This blog will allow me to do just that. While incorporating My 2 endeavors/ businesses.   This platform will allow me a place to share all the creativity I have to offer.  My life has definitely changed! for the better. 

Thank you Steven Reynolds  for creating this website for me!